Living Through Desolation


First quarter is supposed to be an exciting time of the year! I was extremely pumped and ready to take on new challenges and receive new blessings. However, January 2020 has been filled with more than enough depression triggering events. Our world is on fire, the corona virus is killing a mass number of humans daily, my favorite sportsman and 8 others died triadically in an accident and our government sent thousands of troops on deployment; amongst a lot of other things! My spirit has been filled with an overwhelming feeling of grief and support for all those effected by the world’s tragedies. Thus, I wanted to check in with you all to see how you were feeling!


For a long time, I believed that I could eliminate negativity from my life. Our generation is fixed on protecting our peace and letting go of anything and anyone that causes uneasiness in our lives. However, what I have learned in my new season of realization is that I cannot control the negative attributes of life. I can however manage the way I maneuver through difficult times. I also realized that my expectation of people and situations can often result in a disappoint. Have you ever heard the metaphor “Expectations are premeditated resentments?”  If not, this basically means that we have a tendency to pin our hopes for happiness on fulfilled expectations. Do not get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with this; I simply found I can work through any uneasy time by making something happen versus expecting it too.


How do I live through desolation? The answer is that I bring attention to the moment I am in and do the best with what I have. Uneasiness and trying times will always intrude our space in this life. No one will ever have a perfect journey. The best advice I can give anyone is to stop fighting life! Happiness is not something you get rather something you are. As of recently, I let go of expectations of friends, family, work and anything that can make cause a negative reaction if not concluded in the manner I expect. I am finding things to be grateful about, even when things do not turn out the way I hoped for! By doing this, I am practicing having a lessoned amount of resentment and more peace.


Talk to me; what are your thoughts on everything going on thus far this new year?

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